What does it mean when someone tells you they need you?
I remember in my past relationship asking my significant other if He felt like he needed me in his life. I also remember being somewhat heart broken when He said He didn't. That He enjoyed having me in his life but that he could go on without me and didn't actually NEED me.
There I was sitting and thinking that I needed him in my life. Not that He filled some void in my life or that I needed Him to give me some sort of self worth, but I knew I needed Him. Not to be able to breathe in and out every day or anything that extreme...but I needed Him and His love.
Those that You love the most...do you NEED them in your life? And what does that mean if you do or don't?
The phrase "I just needed you" was said to me the other night...and it was the word "needed" that jumped out at me. It made it feel so much more urgent and I wanted to drop everything I was doing to run to that person. But what did it really mean that they needed me? Was it just in that moment? Was it actually ME that they needed or just someone?
I had such a hard time falling asleep last night with these thoughts racing through my mind. Do we all need someone? And do some of us never find the person they need?
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I have recently been comtemplating this same question. I have come to the conclusion that you don't NEED someone in your life. I am not sure if we are thinking of the same person, but I believed I needed him in my life also. But I realized that while I did love him I do not and never did need him. I enjoyed having him in my life and want to have a real love in my life again but I know that I do not need it. I know that when I find a real love I will not need that person. We will enjoy each other and want each other, but hopefully both be strong enough to stand alone as well. I also unfortunately now question being told I am needed. I had someone tell me they needed me and it turns out it was a lie. Then this person tries to tell me this again still to get to me. But I know, having been told by that same person that he did not need me, that he never did, never will, and never COULD. René
ReplyDeleteYes, there are people that I need in my life. There are friendships that I genuinely need. There are family members that I need. I need my children (that's a need you don't know you need until it happens) and yes, I need Josh. To say that a human does not need any other human seems crazy to me...but maybe that's just me. Even God created man, perhaps God needed us (deep theological debate)? And He recognized that man needed a help mate, so he created woman.
ReplyDeleteJust my take on it.